Unwanted behaviour that you can’t control or stop may be a habit, a dependency or an addiction.
Prescribed medications –
Recreational drugs –
Internet use –
These are what most people think of when the subject of addiction and dependency crops up, but this is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. There are so many ways to suffer, but most can be helped with LCH treatment.
So how do you know whether you have a
dependency, an addiction or a habit?
- Does it override your own wishes – you don’t want to do it, but do it anyway?
- Do thoughts of it distract you, interfering with your focus, memory, ability?
- Is it causing problems in your relationships with people and/or with your work?
- Is it negatively affecting your health, mood, confidence, progress?
- Do you become anxious at the thought of being prevented from continuing?
- Have you changed your lifestyle in order to accommodate it?
- Do you suffer withdrawal symptoms without it (shaking, nausea, panic, pain, etc)?
- Is the frequency, need or amount increasing?
If the answer to any of these is yes, then whichever term you use to describe it, it is impacting your life and standing in your way.
So how is LCH treatment different?
Addiction, dependency and habit are each made up of two parts – the mental and the physical – and most therapies and treatments will focus on dealing with the physical part, the unwanted behaviour – cutting down on, avoiding or replacing that which causes the issue. In fact it is the fear of ‘having to do without’ that actually prevents many people from seeking help in the first place. Treating the behaviour is not the answer.
Stopping the behaviour is like taking a ladder away from someone with a fear of heights – it might resolve the immediate issue but that person is still afraid of heights; stopping a gambler from gambling or an alcohol-dependent person from drinking is the same thing and it rarely provides a sustainable change.
In its simplest form, a person becomes dependent on a behaviour because it either makes them feel good or because it stops them from feeling bad. Removing that behaviour does nothing to change the way they feel.
Lesserian Curative Hypnotherapy (LCH) aims to solve the issue entirely by addressing whatever unique reason a person has for behaving in this way. There is something unique about you that causes you to have the need, urge, compulsion to continue with a behaviour that you’d much rather not have. You don’t want to be doing it, you choose not to – but then go on and do it anyway. Why? This is what LCH treatment aims at.
Many people are aware of when the behaviour started, some might even understand why they first started – but why does it continue? Many other people have no idea how or even when the behaviour first began, only that it grew and developed and now is creating a problem for them. So why can’t you stop? Why isn’t willpower enough? What is holding you back? These are the questions which need answering and then resolving in order for you to be free of the unwanted behaviour and living your life the way you wish.
With the reasons behind these questions corrected, there is no need or urge or compulsion and therefore when you decide you don’t wish to behave in that way then, quite simply, you don’t. It means that you can drink socially like most other people without returning to alcohol dependency; can take the occasional pain-killer without fear of addiction; can use the internet like most other people without it taking over your thoughts/life; enjoy a social gathering without drugs; no longer cope with unwanted behaviour – in short, sorting out the mental aspect alongside the physical means you are free to live your life the way you choose to, the way you deserve.